Distraction is a concept that we tend to view as negative and is associated with actions such as avoidance and refusal. For most of my life, the need to distract myself was a sign of failure: I distract myself I thought because I am not strong enough to tackle certain things directly.  At this point, as a fearful person, I probably spent thousands of hours distracted: playing word games on planes in moments of panic; Draw hundreds of small, sequential squares on a piece of paper; watch the same TV programs again and again; I've even gotten into certain relationships so I don't have to think about the things that scare me the most.
These distractions are manifold. Some, like my current tendency to keep my bedroom spotless, could be considered "productive". By distracting my attention from what's actually on fire, like this global pandemic, I'm inadvertently making progress elsewhere. Others, like watching Netflix or scrolling through Instagram, are "not".
In our current climate, however, it is irrelevant whether you want to distract yourself “productively” or “unproductively”. For many of us, any distraction is a very legitimate way to survive. Allowing this ̵
"Some people need a mental reset," says Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., psychologist, author of the newly published Detox Your Thoughts and faculty member at Georgetown University SELF. Distraction can give you time and space to escape, so you're better prepared to face what you didn't think was possible before. But you've probably also looked at distractions that felt anything but enriching and led to this vicious circle: you distract yourself, feel even less able to face what you need (your work, your health , the global pandemic) and you I just want to distract myself (and usually will).
So how can we know if we distract ourselves in a helpful way or just numb our emotions? How fine is this line? First, says Bonior, notice how you feel after being distracted. "Distraction that is somehow disturbed does not give us peace of mind. We feel worse afterwards: Our feelings are still there, but we are less able to face them."
Bonior recommends checking whether Your distraction actually helps you deal with some sensible, realistic intentions, or goals for yourself every day, when you're so distracted that you can't accomplish what's really important to you – like showering, being friendly to your family, or having an e- Sending mail – consider setting clearer limits on the time you spend metaphorically filming your thumbs.
It can feel strange, forgiving, or lazy to distract yourself now, especially if you spend several hours watching an objectively terrible show on Netflix or sleeping twice as much as you normally would, the guilt of distraction rubbing during a global pandemic how can we help others while taking care of ourselves? What privileges can I reassign to make it a better place?
When the problem at hand is so big and uncontrolled, what we could (or should) do feels extremely amorphous and therefore somewhat debilitating. Where do you start if you want to help the world from home? It’s not like we’re avoiding one thing. We avoid everything.