Pete Davidson Saturday Night Live Comedian and notable ex by Ariana Grande – recently he shared a powerful post on Instagram that deals directly with his mental state – and what he does has to say is extremely important to us all.
Davidson has publicly spoken about living with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and depression but this new post was addressed bullying (Online and IRL), the decision to have his mental state open and to fight suicidal thoughts.
"I closed my mouth. I never mentioned names, never said a word about anyone or anything, "Davidson wrote in the post. "I try to understand how, when something happens to a man, the whole world shuns him without any facts or frame of reference. Especially in today's climate, where everyone likes to be offended and upset, it's really overwhelming. I've been mobbed online by people online for nine months, "he continued, apparently referring to the callous treatment he received on social media. (Grande has since asked her fans to be "gentler with others" and stated that she cares "very much" about Davidson and his health. "
" I've talked about BPD and just publicly suicidal thoughts in the hope that it will help raise awareness and help children like me who do not want to be on this earth, "Davidson continued.  "I just want you to know. No matter how much the internet or someone tries to make me kill myself. I will not do it. I'm upset, I even have to say that, "wrote Davidson," For those who hold me down and see what it is – I see you and I love you. "
While being more aware of mental illness in reducing of stigma, an honest discussion about experiencing suicidal thoughts is something we do not hear often. That's why Davidson's Post has caught our attention – and Mental's attention – health experts.
"The fact is that millions of people are listening to this guy and having an emotional connection to him," says Jonathan Singer, LCSW, a professor at Loyola University, the Chicago School of Social Work, which chairs the American Association of Suicidology (AAS) listened to SELF. "And here he has this and says," This is a part of me. "If someone with such an impact is open to their mental illness and suicidal thoughts challenges, it's OK for us all to talk
These types of conversations can help break down the barriers that prevent people from taking lifesaving care Dr. Kelly Posner Professor of Psychiatry in Vagelos The College of Physicians and Surgeons of Columbia University and the founder and director of The Columbia Lighthouse Project, says SELF. "The fact that he Talking about suicidal thoughts and mental illness in this way is exactly what we need to talk about to prevent suffering and suicide, "says Posner." It's fantastic. "
Davidson reminds us that our words are important and a very real connection between bullying and suicide – without spreading a damaging myth about it.
Posts like Davidson recall Let's remind ourselves that even anonymous, distant interactions can be very powerful, Psychologist April Foreman who has experience in working with BPD patients and sits on the board of AAS, reports SELF. "We all have the duty to treat other people with dignity and respect, either digitally or in real life. There are real people at the other end of [what you say] and your commitment to your neighbor does not end at your keyboard. "
At the same time, Davidson also avoids the misleading view that bullying directly causes suicide, which makes a very complicated picture too simplistic," says Singer. "It's important that he did not say," Because I was bullied, I'm suicidal now. "This is a really important myth, which, especially in children [who often hear]is the popular act of" bullying "and something other than suicide. The reality is that there is no clear cause for suicide, although living with a mental illness like depression or BPD can be a risk factor. Read more about the right and wrong way to talk about suicide here .
"There are people in our lives who we may not notice are fighting," Dr. Christine Moutier, Chief Medical Officer of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP), tells SELF. Unfortunately, mobbing (online or otherwise) is as likely for a famous comedian as it is for an average middle school student.
Perhaps Davidson is a message of hope and resilience for those who struggle with mental health problems, suicidal thoughts or suicidal thoughts.
There is a misconception that any suicide content is harmful because it could put one's thoughts in someone's head. But suicide contraception does not work that way. Moutier. "The issue we have to deal with with messaging, which could get into a contagion risk, is that suicide attempts are presented graphically in words and pictures, or when it's glamor and sensation," she says. "If you see it and hear and ask, it will not make you suicidal," adds Posner.
In fact, vulnerable and honest stories like Davidson, who refuse to outsmart the realities of mental illness and suicidal thoughts, are just the thing to send a message to someone in a difficult place.
The key to suicide prevention experts is that it sets a clear line between suicidal thoughts and action. "To say:" Yes, I have mental health problems. And yes, I thought about killing myself. But no, I will not do it – that's important, "says Singer.
" It's a message of hope. He is committed to life, "explains Dr. Moutier. "[He’s saying] & # 39; I have problems, and I had suicidal thoughts or attempts, but here I choose to stay alive and stay healthy, coping now and over time & # 39; … that is incredibly powerful.