• Queer Eye Season 4 Episode 2 depicts Wesley Hamilton, who was paralyzed after being shot seven years ago.
• Wesley spent a week with the Fab Five he tells Men Health changed his life fundamentally
• Once Karamo brought Wesley to the man who shot him – he tells us how that was.
The outstanding hero of the fourth season of Queer Eye reveals more details behind this emotional meeting with the man who shot him.
The second episode of the season's new series, entitled "Disabled but Not Really," features a man named Wesley Hamilton, who was shot and paralyzed seven years ago, and has since used his injury to become a better person ̵
If you've ever seen Queer Eye then you know that everyone In Wesley's episode, the most moving moment is when Karamo arranges a personal meeting between Wesley and the man who shot him, Maurice, unbelievably, they both lead a polite, understanding discussion that not only ends in a good mood, but Wesley thanks [Maurice] and says he feels strengthened by the life he has since received.
Move on this Meeting with Maurice:
Wesley told Men's Health that as soon as he knew he was going to meet Maurice, he wanted to find a degree more than anything else. "I knew the power of it, but I also knew that I was ready to be free," he said.
One thing the episode did not do? The fact that the meeting almost did not take place. In an email to Men's Health Karamo said that Wesley and Maurice were about to say goodbye for up to five minutes before entering the restaurant for their personal meeting. "I mastered both fears and told them to trust me," Karamo wrote. "The conversation that took them took almost two and a half hours, but in the end it gave them an idea of the epidemic of violence that so many communities face, and at the same time find healing and closure."
When the meeting was over, Wesley said it was not as difficult as he had thought.
"I think the message behind it was: I it always seems hard to get up it's done, "he said." It was hard. It was scary. I mean, you have all these feelings, but the moment it happened, it was such a relief. It was a relief because it did not happen. It does not seem so hard when I once did it. "The key, Wesley says, came into the encounter with an open mind, he knew who that guy was, and he knew what had happened, but he was ready to listen to him, he was ready to understand, he was willing to forgive – and he was not only ready, but wanted to go on.
"I did not get into a blame game," Wesley said. "If I'd come through with a blame game, it would have taken a very different path can. But I think because I could blame myself and take responsibility, it immediately gave me relief when it was done. "
In his e-mail, Karamo emphasized one important aspect of the episode:" I want people recognize that these two men are not bad – they are a product of systemic problems that cause them to believe that violence is an option, "he said." I want people to realize that by supervised conversation anyone can take the steps to heal from a traumatic situation.
And finally, the sometimes greatest moments of defeat we experience are in fact the greatest lessons we need to better understand ourselves and the world around us, "he wrote.
Wesley is now here:
In the time since the episode was filmed last fall, Wesley has continued to feel great – it took a while, but He finally feels comfortable in his home of Bobby, which is supposed to make his life easier.
"Dude," he said, "It took me at least six months to get used to the house, because it was only for me It was a game changer. "
Because it had taken so long – seven years, after all – Wesley had forgotten what it felt like to be at home, hotels, none of which was ever sufficient. So he did r what he knew to do: adapt.
"It was big change, but it was small," Wesley said. "You just had to think for a bit, think about what it could be."
The converted house has not only changed its life, but also its social life. He feels more comfortable now than ever and invites family and friends.
"Honestly, I even got into a relationship!" he says.
Wesley also founded his own charitable organization, Disabled But Not Really, where he wants to help other people with disabilities strengthen their lives, feel physically and mentally fit, and not be constrained by any mental limitations feel everything.
In the period since the filming of his episode, Wesley has been present on social media and frequently posted on Instagram. He even shared some of his more adventurous moments, like the time in April when he skydived:
Wesley said his Queer Eye experience had a lasting effect on him: "I mean, the Fab Five? ! "he said in disbelief. "Just as they came in a week and changed my life, I will forever be grateful to them."