In the fitness and spa area, you have said so many times to accept yourself as you are, and that it's important to embrace your skin. Easier said than done? Author Jen Pastiloff is here to tell you otherwise. (See: How is self-care a place in the fitness industry?)
Can you accept yourself the way you are? Just for a breath? I always thought I had deafening silence when my hearing aids were not in my ears. But then I realized: I have never experienced silence. I have tinnitus – a ringing, a whirling noise, a whistling and silence in my head. It is never quiet. I never hear it. It's crazy. Yes, sometimes I want to cry. When it was worst, I wanted to die during my dark depression. That's silence for me. I forgot that it is not the silence of other people. What is silence? How does that sound? Feel like? My enlightenment is not that I lied when I said it was deafening silence without my hearing aids. It is that I have always thought that silence is like that. I always have that buzz in my head. So if the silence is different for me than for you – what else is different? What else am I sure of? What is still good about me as it is? How did I not realize that before? The whole time that I took for granted was silence when I never really experienced it. Or is that perhaps my silence? Who should say Is not it amazing that we never know what someone else has experienced? At least not completely. Lets me think about how you feel in love, and years later, when you are no longer in the relationship, say, "I was not REALLY in love," but at the time it felt the same way. How do we even know what is safe? I do not think so. My peace is not but it is the only one I know. It's fascinating what we get used to, how we call ourselves, what we call in the name of things. Thanks, @alexandrawrote, for my words. Tell me an epiphany that you had downstairs, and get an @ eliseballard book #epiphany because it changed my life! I can not wait to read yours. Also tell me where in the world are you ?! Mark someone I have to meet !! And let me know if you can accept YOU as you are today. Write "I accept". I trust you. #epiphany #deaf #onbeinghuman #hearingaids #tinnitus
suffers from extreme hearing loss In a recent publication Instagram Post talked about how she defines silence. "I always thought I had deafening silence when my hearing aids are not in my ears," she wrote. "But then I realized: I have never experienced silence."
Pastiloff suffers from tinnitus or, as she puts it, "a ringing, whirling, whistling and stillness" that she has constantly in her ears. It affects one in five people and is usually due to an underlying problem such as an ear injury, age-related hearing loss or a series of circulatory disorders. It is not clear what caused the symptom for Pastiloff.
"It's never quiet," she explains. "I never hear it, it's crazy, yes, sometimes I want to cry, when it's worst, during my dark depression, I wanted to die, so for me it's silence." (See also: Blogger gives an easy way to physically shame.)
But as we know, most people would not define silence. "I forgot it is not the silence of others," Pastiloff wrote. "My enlightenment is not that I lied when I said it's deafening silence without my hearing aids, I've always thought that's silence, that's always in my head, so if silence is different for me what is different for you, what else is it for me, what is still so positive to me, THE WAY IT IS? "
What a convincing argument. The present state of the world is a social belief in how you should look, what you should feel, and how you should respond. It is easy to believe that this is the irrefutable, unprejudiced, unique truth when, in fact, the beliefs and truths of each person are unique. The reality of one person is not the same as another. (PS: You can love your body and still want to change it)
As Pastiloff explains, "All the while I took for granted what silence meant when I never really experienced it – or Maybe that's my silence, who is going to say that? Is not it amazing how we never know what someone else has experienced, at least not completely. "
Let the moment of Pastiloff's light bulb remind you twice about it have to think before you judge others, and more importantly, yourself. At the end of the day, there is no right or wrong – just another – that is worth everything to be accepted.