It's always easier to share the festive moments of our lives than the challenging ones, especially in the social media. But that does not mean that these difficult moments do not happen, and as Shay Mitchell recently wrote on Instagram, these moments can also bring us together.
Mitchell revealed that she had one experience . Miscarriage last year. Because she chose not to talk about it publicly, she wondered how little we really know about what others are going through.
"We all have to deal with different struggles and challenges in life" Mitchell began her ministry .
"And sometimes it's easier to present good times only on social media, which makes many people criticize it for lack of authenticity," she said.
"When so many people follow me on Instagram and read my posts, it's both incredibly humble and tremendously uplifting, and the support and affection that so many of me show brings me to my darkest days, one of them Last year After losing a child of my hopes and dreams, I lost the child of my hopes and dreams badly – and to remind ourselves that we seldom really know or understand the struggles and hardships other people are going through, "she wrote , "So, for 2019, let's all try to be a little more compassionate, empathetic, patient and thoughtful with each other."
Although miscarriages are relatively common, we usually hear nothing about them.
A pregnancy loss is usually accompanied by complicated, difficult feelings of guilt or shame, so it is understandable that many people prefer to keep them private. But for some, the miscarriage-related stigma keeps them from sharing their experiences, making them feel isolated as they make their way through an already challenging situation.
The stigma and silence about miscarriages also make them appear less frequent than they are. In reality, an estimated 10 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, which is defined as pregnancy loss occurring within the first 13 weeks, according to the American College of Gynecologists and Obstetricians (ACOG).
Although the decision to be open about the loss of pregnancy is obviously a very personal one, talking about this experience may help you and others feel less alone. Ultimately, as Mitchell wrote, the most important thing to remember is that we can not expect to know what others are dealing with. And whether or not they report details like this, we should treat them with compassion and empathy.