Jana Kramer gave birth to her son Jace at the end of November, and recently she spoke publicly about her decision not to breastfeed him. Unfortunately, the feedback was not always positive, she said in a recent episode of her podcast Whine Down With Jana Kramer .
Kramer said that people flatly asked her if she was breast-feeding or not, and that she received unwanted feedback about the benefits of breastfeeding when she learned she was not. "I totally understand that. It's just frustrating when women [are told]: "Breastmilk is the best and all the nutrients!" She said. Kramer said she even feels, "I have to hide the bottle when I'm in the public because people judge me. I feel judged, "she said.
She gave no specific reason for breastfeeding, but that was part of her point:" Do I have to explain to everyone why we are not breastfeeding? I feel like I have no problem talking about it, but why can not it be okay that we are not? Why do we always have to explain our decisions?
Kramer followed the ] Instagram that showed her feeding her son a bottle. "FED IS BEST!" She wrote in the caption. "They all asked or commented and I wanted to explain myself because I had the feeling, especially in a world of shame, but here's my decision … I do not have to explain the shit, I'm doing the best for myself and my baby! "
There are some reasons why someone does not want to breastfeed or can not breastfeed.
The CDC lists a number of health conditions that may affect your ability to breastfeed, including those that might force you to temporarily stop breastfeeding, or stop you from breastfeeding.
For example, you should not breast-feed if your child has classic galactosemia (a rare genetic metabolic disorder) or disease. If you have HIV a Type I or Type II human T-cell lymphotropic virus or Ebola have, says the CDC.
And you should temporarily forego breastfeeding if you are having problems such as untreated brucellosis infection (a very rare infection that spreads from animals to humans, usually due to unpasteurized dairy products) or active herpes simplex virus infection (HSV) with lesions on the breast. And if you take certain medications (the CDC contains a list ) or undergo diagnostic imaging with radiopharmaceuticals, these are also reasons for a break.
There are also physical reasons why this could be difficult or impossible to maintain, as after a double mastectomy explains. Christine Greves, a board certified gynecology at the Winnie Palmer Hospital for Women and Babies, opposite SELF.
"There are few absolute reasons why women can not breastfeed, and most health problems are compatible with breastfeeding," Dr. Joan Younger Meek, chairwoman of the American Academy of Pediatrics Section for Breastfeeding, and a professor at the Florida State University College of Medicine, tells SELF.
Of course, as Kramer points out, you do not owe anyone (sanction or not) an explanation for breastfeeding.
"Every reason is different and that's fine," says Mary Jane Mink, M.D., clinical professor of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive science at Yale Medical School, tells SELF. Some people need to get back to work quickly, knowing that they do not have time to pump at work, she says. "Others just do not feel comfortable, are worried or very worried that they will not do it right," she says. Some may have had some poor breastfeeding experiences in the past – such as a nipple injury or frequent mastitis [19459004 "- and do not want to run the risk of going through it again, says dr. Greves. [19659015SiekönntenauchentscheidennichtzustillennachdemeineschwierigeEntbindungoderKomplikationenumdieZeitderEntbindungaufgetretensindsagtDrEskannaucheinpsychischerGrunddahinterstehen"FrauendieOpfervonhäuslicherGewaltVergewaltigungoderanderenTraumatawurdenberichtengelegentlichdassdieErfahrungdassdasBabywährenddesdirektenStillensinsolchengemKontaktstehtzusätzlicheTraumataauslösenkann"sagtDrMeek
One reason for the baby, not to be silent, like the child with tongue bond (technical term: "Ankyloglossia"), a condition in which a fabric band as frenulum which holds the tongue together and limits the range of the tongue movement, Mayo Clinic says.
So you do not even have to tell anyone if you're breastfeeding or not – that's your privilege. In the end, you have the choice, and others should respect that, says dr. Minkin.
If you do not breastfeed, your doctor will probably ask for the reason.
"When a woman says she does not do it When breastfeeding, I say, 'No judgment, but why? & # 39; "says Dr. Greves. "We just want to make sure she has the right information, but ultimately, the choice is up to them." Dr. Minkin says she encourages new mothers to try to breastfeed – even for a few months – if they can. "But if you can not, you can not – that's all it takes," she says. Your doctor may help you alleviate your fears or consult a lactation consultant who can help you to resolve some common problems. But after that, your doctor should drop the subject (and if not, maybe it's time to find a new one.)
"Our goal should be to provide information, education, and support, but in the end, we should join the mother support the choice she is making regarding infant nutrition, "says Dr. Meek. "She can be a good mother, a good caretaker and a good educator, and she chooses to feed her formula."
Like Dr. Minkin says, "What works for humans is great, as long as the baby is thriving and growing, that's all that matters."