You walk down the street and look in the opposite direction with a buddy – what do you do?
As a recent reddit thread revealed whether you're like much Of the guys, you're probably making a kind of nod – a subtle, sometimes instinctive non-verbal greeting that you may not even realize that you perform It is a small, platonic gesture of semiotic significance – a sign of mutual respect, friendly recognition, acknowledging the presence of others without being too intrusive.
Call it the Silent "Sup."
"Some men seem to do it consciously to convey respect, to dispel tensions, or simply to say hello without having to stop and chat. Others may do it without thinking, almost like a reflex. It can be done for the seemingly banal reasons, for example, that someone has the same headset as you, or as a meaningful demonstration of recognition and support, as is the case with some colored men who sometimes say they use a version of the Nicks to confirm in mainly white rooms. In any case, it can be a complicated gesture whose meaning may change for some, depending on the circumstances and subtle nuances.
"One has the feeling that there is a connection," said body language expert Patti Wood Men's Health by telephone. "This is a ritual that you can do from a distance that still has a purpose."
Given the subtle nature of the Silent & # 39; Sup, it would be completely understandable if you did not know it was one thing. I was not particularly into this weird behavior of men until last week when I saw a popular reddit thread in / AskMen. He asked, "Why do we nod to each other when we contact random types?
This simple query produced a massive response, as was the case when Men's Health Deputy digital editor Jordyn Taylor posed a similar question on Twitter The answers came in floods – some of people who said they would do it, but can not give the reason for it.
Others try Explaining the phenomenon suggested it was a simple nonverbal hello – and nothing more.
But others saw it as something deeper, as a recall for a primitive animal instinct that is latent in men.
"Another Man is like a combination of respect and respect Honestly, disarmament, "said Adrian Fontes Men's Health in a Twitter message:" Because men are so interconnected that they fight each other fight it, this simple gesture solves all tensions and gives the other the permission to relax.
According to Wood, there is something to both interpretations.  "Sometimes you do not want to say," See you there, but I do not want to stop and have a conversation, "she said," instead of being a signal that suggests you want a conversation, close one
But, Wood said, it may also be laden with Urs symbolism – a desire, consciously or not, to convey the "Alpha status." Protecting your neck by either going down or nod not, it may point to vulnerability, but nodding upwards may signal confidence and strength.
"If you saw a nature show, you would see that," she said.
In Embassies to Men's Health the boys repeated Woods' assessments, saying that this is more of a matter than we thought until now, and that many men believe that gesture can intimidate much.
"Me nod out of respect for the intrusion into their personal space, "said Silent" Supper Mike Collins "in an email. "When I approach someone and we are no more than ten yards apart, I nod their heads. This is like a good day. I am sorry that I am so close to you. I am friendly. We do not have to fight.
Nodding may take on slightly different meanings depending on the method and context.
Marcus Helton, a basketball journalist, said Men's Health that he used a nod during an Asian trip to Asia to recognize the only four other black men he met during his visit spent three weeks abroad.
"This is one way to detect the other's presence and to know if there is any support for shit," Helton joked in a direct Twitter message.
Derek K. Hubbard, a specialist in social media, is from the South; He explained nodding as part of a kind of southern hospitality – a recognition of male and female passers-by.
"Showing some kindness to our fellow human beings can significantly contribute to making others feel seen and appreciated," Hubbard said Men's Health in a Twitter message.