As we move forward into the New Year, you're likely to come to you from all directions. In fact, the news flooded probably before the new year. The pressure to create a list of resolutions and create a new self is high. I call this the rush of worthiness – basically, the idea is that if we make every effort to achieve certain goals, we will be more dignified or happier. And thanks to the pervasive diet culture, these goals are mostly about changing our bodies, losing weight or eating in a certain way (to change our body).
As As a strength trainer and trainer, I empower my clients to focus less on their mental energy to shrink their bodies and claim the space literally and figuratively. Many work with my clients is about healing their relationship with their body and improving their body image. My goal for every one of my clients and for everyone I work with is that their relationship to fitness and nutrition is such that they can feel strong, powerful and above all safe and sound in their skin. Fitness is not about a particular look, size, or body. Although diet culture would prefer that we focus our energy on "fixing" our body and chasing restrictions and perfection rather than living a fulfilling and purposeful life, I encourage my clients to embrace their bodies and physical activity to operate, which allows them to feel nourished, energetic and powerful.
At this time of year, my question to myself and my clients is, do you have to create a "new me"? Must your goals be geared to "getting into the best shape." of your life "or lose weight? Do we even have to set the New Year's resolutions? What if we were approaching the New Year by taking the time to truly evaluate what we individually want rather than surpassing other people's goals or cultural expectations? If you think this season is more anxiety-inducing than motivating and inspiring, you should answer these questions. And let me be clear: I am not against people wanting to change their bodies. What I am against is the idea that we all want to constantly change our bodies and that cultural expectations based on diet culture should decide for us what we want for our body.
The thing is, if we all hear news about the importance of transforming our bodies, it's hard to imagine anything else or more for our lives.
The diet culture hunts our uncertainties. The messages about blasting holiday pamphlets and preparing for the summer aim to either make us feel insecure and dissatisfied with our bodies, or to turn the dissatisfaction we already feel into a new weight loss solution. As long as we are dissatisfied with our body, the diet industry can continue to offer us the perfect solution and benefit from our pain. But when we look at our bodies and want to know how we can change them to become more desirable under accepted norms, it becomes increasingly difficult to understand what we really want for ourselves.
Before you get sucked in the New Year's whirl, you new, think about what you want for yourself. Are you sure you want to create a "new me"? Do you feel it is desirable to set a list of goals and solutions, or even the method that will lead you to the desired changes? In many ways, we were socially conditioned to believe that we must use the beginning of the year to prepare for the changes that will make us new and better for the coming year.
What if we took the time to calm the mind, calm the voices of external influences, and decide for our individual self what feels good?
You may have decided after some consideration that you have goals and solutions that change your eating habits, commit you to a new fitness program, or change your body composition. Physical autonomy, the ability to have control over what they do with their bodies, is paramount. Your body and your goals are your business and nobody else. However, I would like to encourage everyone to review their goals and desires. While the desire to change something is not bad at all, is your desire for change in personal autonomy or diet culture rooted? Sometimes it can be very difficult to decipher the difference.
Although the answer is not always clear, it is important to realize that our happiness is unlikely to be on the other side of achieving goals dictated by diet culture. Why? Because if you let the diet culture set the rules, there is always something more to change to meet the (very high, infinite) expectations. If you take it for granted, even on a subconscious level, that you will be happier, more dignified, and more fulfilling when you carry out your New Year's resolutions, this may be an indication that your goals are due to the dietary culture or the hustle and bustle.
While this ideology may be tempted to believe that the truth, while losing weight or getting into the best shape of our lives, can not make us happier people. When I was trapped in this mentality and in my absolute inclination, I was still dissatisfied with my body and completely miserable. Everyone around me kept telling me how great I looked, and though I had reached my weight loss goal, I did not feel worthy. In fact, I found more reasons to be dissatisfied with my body. I still had to lose five pounds, change that part of my body, or get a flatter stomach or spicier buttock muscles. When we set ourselves goals from a place of unworthiness and believe that we are worthy of achieving our goals, we are ready to fail. On the other hand, if we set ourselves goals with the motto "I'm so good, I'm worth it, and I deserve the very best in life, no matter how I look or what I do," we can set goals that enrich our lives and bring us joy.
Instead of beginning the year with a to-do list of items that will bring you closer to an ideal, consider thinking and thinking.
And play solution or four simple steps that make the New Year simple and straightforward. However, there are ways to make this year recognize your own individual needs and desires. Perhaps that means separating from social media and stealing people who promote agendas that do not conform to your personal values or feel "not enough." It may also mean that we are kind and compassionate to ourselves, if perhaps we recognize that. Some of our desires are rooted in dietary culture. We are constantly flooded with these messages, so it is perfectly normal for us to feel that we are achieving certain goals. Maybe it means thinking with trusted friends about what you really want for yourself and how happy you really look as individuals.
This is your gentle reminder that you do not have to create something new. You have to earn all the wonderful things in life.
You are worthy now. There are no prerequisites for feeling complete and complete. Instead of entering the next year with a list of goals to create a "better self," I encourage you to focus on how you want to feel in 2019, for example, nourished, rested or energized, and more focused to focus on the activities that promote these feelings.
Chrissy King is an ISSA-certified personal trainer, strength and nutrition trainer, powerlifter, self-proclaimed fortune-teller and writer with a passion for intersectional feminism. It empowers women to stop shrinking, take the place, and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. When she does not serve her clients by empowering them to create stress-free and sustainable lifestyles and feel safe and strengthened in their skin, she spends her time lifting all the weights, reading, traveling, with friends and the To hang family. Follow her on Twitter here on Facebook here and on Instagram here .