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This is Thanksgiving, which means that you're probably thinking of what you're thankful for, and that's a good thing Because you probably know the many common benefits Gratitude: Emotions can make you happier, strengthen relationships, help you sleep better, and increase your energy.
That's one of the reasons why so many people practice gratitude, write in a gratitude journal or express it to friends IRL or social media. Another reason: "Gratitude is intuitive and you feel good right away," says Dr. Tchiki Davis, founder of the Berkeley Well-Being Institute.
I am always grateful quite right right: "In this culture, we tend to use gratitude as a mechanism to improve our own happiness and well-being," says Davis. "But the benefits of gratitude have a lot to do with how they strengthen relationships."
Here five mistakes could be made when it comes to being # blessed and what to do to turn things around.
She does not speak up.
Maybe you think you feel awkward when you tell your colleague how much she appreciated it, when he stood for you in this meeting, or you think it would be strange to thank your sister forever. be there when you call. Stop! According to a study by the University of Chicago's Booth School of Business, people underestimate the positive effects that expressing gratitude on themselves and the other person will greatly underestimate. In fact, this stops many people from expressing the emotion at all, as research has shown that gratitude to someone has improved the well-being of both sides.
They only do the movements.
You may feel * should * write in a thank-you journal because your Instagram feed is trying to sell it to you, or because your favorite blog has announced its powers. Not so fast. "With gratitude, we really need to be sincere or sincere, be it for things or people," says Sonja Lyubomirsky, Professor and Deputy Chair of Psychology at the University of California Riverside. "If you only go through the movements, this has no effect." (See also: Why I Ask My Nutritionists to Keep a Gratitude Journal Instead of a Food Journal)
Similarly, there are many different ways we experience gratitude (we see examples in daily life-day life, we read about it, we hear about it), there are endless possibilities to practice gratitude. Find out what works for you. For example, Davis says that a collection of thankfulness images resonates with some people (think of a collage or a board). Or maybe you prefer to telephone.
Make sure you change the phone now and then. "Whatever you can do to activate more regions of your brain that are linked to your sense of gratitude, the better," says Davis.
They reproduce the # blessed phenomenon.
Do you always write on social media how grateful you are for your friends, your husband or this great trip you could go on? Posts like these can make other people jealous and vindictive rather than connect with you, says Davis. (And that's as opposed to which should do gratitude.)
"I think the best approach is to express gratitude one-to-one," says Davis. "Instead of showing other people what you are thankful for, tell them that you are grateful for that." That's a big jump and it could feel very different from the hashtags #blessed or # grateful that circulate the internet. But the idea is that even a DM to a friend for whom you have a great appreciation will probably come closer to you both and will be more effective than a public post in cyberspace about how grateful you are to your friends. (FYI, Instagram is the worst social media platform for your mental health)
You think you have to practice it all the time.
"People who express gratitude once a week on average get happier than people who do it three times a week," says Lyubomirsky. However, it is best to choose the optimal dosage for you. For some people, this could be once a week; for others it could be every day. Play around how often you express your emotions. What feels good? (Related: The Simple Gratitude Practice That You Should Do Everyday)
You give up because it feels uncomfortable.
"Talking to someone about gratitude does not always feel right," says Lyubomirsky. "It can feel uncomfortable, you may feel humble, embarrassed or indebted to someone." But that's not necessarily a bad thing, she says. "Even if it feels uncomfortable, awkward or uncomfortable, it can make you feel better." She finally says, "Connection is, if you truly recognize success, not only to you, but to others as well."