I used to have a roommate named Heather, who triggered Marlboro Light after Marlboro Light, but I really wanted to stop. At that time, I told her a tip I had learned from a smoker who had successfully quit. He said, "Replace an unwanted habit with a good habit."
"But what habit?" She asked. In a wonderful moment I just happened to hold a green tea in my hand.
"Green tea," I almost screamed. "Green tea!" I raised my cup to highlight the divine timing of the universe.
"I like green tea," Heather said, looking curious. Could it work for you? She filled the kitchen cabinets with jasmine green tea and ciggies were banned from our house from that day on.
It is absolutely possible to replace a bad habit with a good one. if you want this is how it works:
1. Make sure the decision is with you.
Change is not the easiest thing in the world; We find security in familiarity, and our old ways can console us – the glass of red at the end of a long day, the cake as a reward for a completed project, the smartphone with the Insta app (aka Social Crutch) you hold in yours Hand.
It is even worse (impossible, really) when change is the idea of another. You have to be the one who wants it. It is much more likely that you will successfully transform a habit if you make the decision for yourself (not your mother, your doctor or your doctor). What You feel most ready to change right now?
. 2 Be close to the right people.
I went to AA with my dad and I remember something that was often repeated there: "If you do not want to slip, do not go where it's slippery." That meant: stay out of the pub! Find sober friends! Enjoy "dry" places and activities, such as a walk in the forest or a drive along the coast.
With whom can you spend a little more time, who does not have the habit that you want to reduce? For example, I drink far less prosecco with my business friends than with my old business partners. Who has a good influence in your life? Call her.
3. Distract yourself.
Comfort food is tempting, no matter how full we are, am I right? My comfortable food is pancakes, my childhood love – I could even eat them after a 5 course meal. If you are not hungry, but want to give in to a desire, you can distract your thoughts.
Instead of opening your fridge, you leave the kitchen and start to sort something in a drawer in your bedroom example. When you go back to the kitchen, you can forget about the food. This happened to me recently when I made a serving of pancakes and called my best friend. We talked excitedly for 45 minutes – and the group went down the sink.
Another trick might work for you: A client of mine gave up her tight habit by massaging her little back every time she wanted to chew on a nail. After three weeks she had stopped – but she continued the massages.
. 4 Do not forget to reward yourself.
The reward for us is important, especially if we had to rob ourselves of something else or endure something difficult.
They eradicated. For example, if you have not used sugar, you can treat yourself to a nice haircut or even a weekend (a friend of mine gave me coffee and alcohol for a month and saved $ 1,000 – that's enough for some time by the pool or on the mountain Winter)! If you have overcome a carry-over or complain, you may enjoy a dinner.
What is your dream reward, even if it is so small? Write it down. Imagine it in your mind. It is on the way!
Habits are a natural part of your life experience, and most of them help us brush our teeth, drink water, exercise, call our mother, and go to bed early enough to spend a decent night sleeping , But no custom are you . We are the sum of our habits and choices in the end, but no habit defines you – and no one can force you to do anything.
As for Heather, she decides to use her cigar money to save a jar and a car (Hey – I'd choose to put my hard-earned dough in a wheel instead of lighting it in smoke every day.) Did she succeed ? I dont know; Unfortunately we did not stay in contact. But even if she had not, if I saw her blow away today, I'd say, "It's alright, girl, you can always start over again – but only if you really want to."
Susie Moore is the columnist of Greatist's life coach and a trust coach in New York City. Sign up for free wellness tips on their website and visit the latest "No Regrets" section every Tuesday.