The path to the parent is rarely as straightforward as it seems. And for Gabrielle Union it took more than a few unexpected twists, including multiple miscarriages, unsuccessful experiences with the IVF and finally the diagnosis adenomyosis a painful condition Can cause fertility problems.
But in early November, Union and her husband Dwyane Wade revealed that they had recently admitted a small girl to her family through her surrogate mother. Well, in an open post on Instagram, Union reflects the emotional journey the couple has made to get there.
"That night, we decided to accept the belief that our little miracle @kaaviajames would make it into our arms," wrote Union in the caption.
"We held each other in joy and peace and allowed ourselves to look forward to their arrival," she continued. The moving photo shows Wade while Union bends standing to kiss her head.
"For many people / families who have embarked on their own journey to fertility / family creation, hope may seem like a cruel joke playing on repetition," Union wrote. They stop being upset, they carry everything, they can feel insulative and depressing, they wonder if they're broken, they are not, they wonder if they're worthy It feels like you're feeling wary. "
As the caption explained, Wade decided to mark this emotional milestone with a tattoo of the name of his soon-to-come daughter." That night we allowed ourselves afraid to hold your breath. We had four months left. We have never been so close. #Tbt "
Although the majority of Internet responses to the couple's news have done so, some were not positive.
Union told Oprah in a clip about an upcoming OWN special that she did faced with a backlash after she revealed the news that she had used a replacement People reports . Wade agreed to say that some were confused as to why she behaved that way as if she had just gotten a baby carrier "- is not a shortcut. The use of a carrier is expensive and complicated . It also brings with it its own unique emotional challenges, including the fact that you do not carry the baby yourself and therefore may not have as much control over the pregnancy as you want. As Union's Instagram post makes clear, there are also many challenges that lead to the decision to use a replacement.
In addition, each person's fertility, pregnancy and parental journey is different and equally valid and special. As Union said in its post, no matter what the journey looks like to you, "you are not alone, you are loved and worthy and every feeling is real and understood."