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This article contains spoilers for the third season of Netflix's Stranger Things .
Stranger Things 3 was dropped last week, and along with the Mind Flayer and the nefarious Russians, one of the many storylines he picked up on earlier seasons was the Will-They-Will-not-be relationship Joyce Byers and Jim Hopper. To send Joyce and Hopper is understandable; These are two characters who have known each other since high school and share the indisputable chemistry. Hopper has proven again and again that he wants to protect Joyce and her family. But this protective side of Hopper was much more possessive in the third season, and many fans noticed it.
First and foremost, there was the character's anger over his adoptive El's relationship with Mike. While this was initially seen as a normal parental dispute over the two teens who spent too much time together, Hopper dealt with it (ignoring Joyce's advice to speak to the children and instead shook the shit out of Mike out an angry lecture) some viewers considered disproportionate.
Then there was the way Hopper reacted when she pressured Joyce to agree to dinner and did not show the signs that she was not ready to ignore Bob's death , He got drunk, behaved infernally to restaurant staff, and then verbally abused Joyce the next day. And even after the two had reconciled, his jealousy about Joyce's entirely platonic friendship with Scott Clarke continued.
The actress Evan Rachel Wood, whose character went through hell in HBO's Westworld knows a thing or two about venomous male behavior, and after seeing Stranger Things 3 tweeted she hopper that is something that people should seek in their behavior or imitate their own lives.
While many fans defended the character against criticism of toxic masculinity, the authors of the series seem to be sure that Hoppers behavior is at least partially condemned. Just before the season fell on Netflix, actor David Harbor promised the fans a "bigger, worse hoppers" and said his character would be "stubborn, miserable, broken and reckless".
We do not need every character on TV to be a role model for respectful behavior: faulty, broken people make for great stories. But the last decade of antihero shows has led some viewers to consider these personality mistakes as part of what makes a character "great" (just look at the number of protagonists chugging whiskey like water).
For a show This is so deeply rooted in nostalgia that sometimes you should remember that not everything that happened in the eighties was so great – not even the way men teach in dealing with women were. Given the sexism in Nancy's story, it's rather strange for viewers to ignore Hoppers possessive, jealous behavior just because he happens to be one of the "good guys".