During the last brunch last winter, I asked my happiest, most thriving friend what her secret was. She had such a life together, and success was easy (she had achieved groundbreaking success in her business in only two years). "Beat!" She answered without a second thought.
Fascinated, I asked her to connect with her knocking trainer. Since this weekend, knocking has become an almost daily part of my life, and I will speak to anyone who will listen. Knocking, also called EFT or emotional freedom techniques, is a tool that can relieve stress and emotional pain.
I'm not going to pretend that we fully understand why knocking works (there's still so much that does not know anything about the human body!), But I can tell you that he worked absolutely for me. In addition, several studies have shown that it dramatically reduces anxiety. Basically, the tapping combines affirmations with acupressure, a form of needleless acupuncture, with the fingertips to stimulate energy points on the body.
This method seems to be gaining popularity with thinkers like Gabby Bernstein, Denise Duffield Thomas and Nick Ortner is applying them to heal problems ranging from cravings to money worries and unnecessary judgments from others. I tapped into the YouTube sensation that Brad Yates, with whom I've been tapping for months on his short, punchy and powerful videos, tapped to understand how we could use this free, simple tool to improve our lives , I've learned the following:
EFT can scare problems less.
It is important that we really eliminate problems and do not pretend that they do not exist. As Yates says, "You can have a nice living room, but if your dog leaves you a present on the carpet, it does not help to recognize it, you have to get it out."
When you tap meridian points, say statements that you may not normally "like", such as:
"Even if I have $ 8,000 in debts …"
"Even though I'm not talking to myself Dad, because I hate him now … "
" Although I feel like a loser because of X or Y … "
But every negative statement ends with" … I love and accept that. "Me It is nothing like it, it is a true relief, and because I say things that I can never ever admit (19459023) (I am jealous of this person / I feel back in life / I feel like a cheater, if I …), sometimes I even laugh.Yates says knocking has room for all the stuff we can not say.
It's not enough, time after time As a coach, that makes sense – what we refuse will remain, but Yates declares that if we In resisting the one we resist, "we realize that the tiger behind the door is a kitten." We can handle it as soon as we open the door!
EFT reduces stress responses.
If you face up to what frightens you and what prevents you from going forward with the problem (procrastination, grief, fear), the burden on the body is reduced. "Most of our problems are either caused by stress or aggravated," says Yates. He points out that tapping has lowered cortisol levels. And it's also a lasting effect – I feel a natural high that can last all day.
EFT helps to feel motivated.
"Laziness does not exist – it's scary," says Yates. If we do not feel motivated to do sports, make money or anything else we want to do, it is because we encounter resistance. "Knocking is the antidote to resistance." Understanding what creates resistance is the key to release.
EFT speeds healing.
It is no secret that mind and body are interconnected. Since tapping contains a physical support and reassurance tool, it can help you open faster, create a sense of security and down-to-earthness, and enable you to explore your problems without panic or abandonment.
We Can Change the Track Yates says researching memories and beliefs without the stress response that tells you what you should "feel", say or think. It is a fundamental reprogramming that challenges unhealthy beliefs that hold you (money is the root of all evil, I can not lose weight, even if I wanted, I can not be more successful than my parents). You can learn to lose negative associations with beliefs that hold you back, and knocking can even help overcome PTSD.
Your fear brain wants to protect you by playing small.
"Self-sabotage is simply a fallacy love," says Yates. "When you put yourself out there, there's pretty much a guarantee that people will criticize you – the more people you see, the more you get criticized – no matter how brilliant you are." The fear brain will say: Do not do that. It is uncertain . It is a loving intention to protect you, but it will hold you. But if you tap that fearsome feeling, you can explore the cause of the fear and free it from it.
A few minutes a day is enough.
This, in my opinion, is essentially a form of energy hygiene. And just as the skipping of the few minutes it takes to maintain personal hygiene is not sweet, it is not a good idea to skip the stress in our bodies. The busiest person can squeeze it out – I type for 5-7 minutes a day and it works completely (I love this amazing daytime quickie!).
Susie Moore is a columnist for Greatist and a trust coach to New York City. Sign up for free wellness tips on their website and visit the latest "No Regrets" section every Tuesday.