Do you ever want to … just scream as loud as you can and then start your day? Well the same. In the year of our Lord 2020 (also known as the descendants of Loki and Hades), shouting seems to be the most accurate way of expressing our frustration and fear.
You might want to scream because you live in an apartment where your roommates refuse to do their own dishes. Or because you withdrew to live with your parents, who started treating you like you were in high school again. But in this tense climate, careless screaming is more likely to increase stress than relieve it.
Case in point: my friend decided she had to scream in early May and thought she was alone but she wasn̵
The obvious downside to the original screaming is that hearing a human scream creates a certain panic response in other people. In fact, many therapists have thoroughly pointed out that shouting at someone is inappropriate and only increases stress, as shouting is often associated with anger or fear. So maybe don’t yell at someone’s kid in the park while you’re on a socially distant date. It’s not the movement. But if you are craving to unbuckle it, this is the article for you.
We’re here to talk about pensive screaming. Here is a list of the best and worst ways to scream without setting off the alarm.
In the bathroom
If pools are out of the question, and a thorough cleaning of your bathtub doesn’t cause your frustrations, it’s time to top up the tub for a double dose of self-care.
Once the water is warm, and before you drop in a luxury bath bomb, dip your head in the water and just scream. Water dampens the screams and any other type of activity you might want to do in the tub afterward. 😉
Seriously, this triple threat to stress (cleaning, hearing water sounds, and screaming) is really awesome. I get into the tub.
When a loud train goes by
23-year-old Talia Moore says she loves to scream when a subway goes by. She agrees with the fact that she got this idea from “The Bold Type”.
In the pilot, the three main characters long for a good scream (we get it – that’s why we’re here). So they go to the subway in costume (I don’t want to spoil too much so I won’t say why) and scream as the train passes by. It looks so enjoyable.
If you live near isolated tracks, yay! But if you are in a subway area, go to the train in a less busy time to let it out! (Be sure to wear a mask and wait until nobody is around so you can keep your particles to yourself.)
In the forest or on a lonely hike
Nature was a common suggestion. Not everyone passes trains every 4 to 20 minutes, but some of you are lucky enough to live near cornfields or forests. Bring a friend and a flashlight (if you go at night) and be careful. Don’t get into weird “Blair Witch” songs, all of you.
There is a whole philosophical question about how not to hear trees fall in the forest. So if no one can hear you, no one has been bothered.
Be creative with sounds
Something deeply depressing about COVID is that all of those annual wolf howling events (yes, when people go out into nature to howl with wolves) have been canceled. But that doesn’t mean you can’t howl at the moon. Perhaps you will bring a dog to bond with.
A 2015 study suggests that screams that are inherently less primal are less likely to scare people – people might just go insane. In any case, absolutely 100 percent sign up for the first Heulreise in 2021.
Start a heavy metal band
Kim Kelly, freelance journalist and former heavy metal editor at VICE, suggests starting your own heavy metal band. With we’re all stuck at home, I imagine the extra yelling might annoy your neighbors, but I don’t think it would scare them. Just keep it on waking hours and not every day.
Watch a horror movie
With Halloween around the corner, there will be plenty of horror movies coming out / on TV / on any streaming service that you stole from your parents.
Take this opportunity to choose one that seems to have a lot of jumping anxiety and let your body react naturally. Nobody can really judge you if you shit your ass off while watching something terrible.
Scream in Iceland
You may be wondering what I could possibly mean as you are currently unable to travel to Iceland due to COVID. Fortunately, this website exists. You can record yourself screaming and it will be “released” in Iceland. Or you can log in to hear the other people let it out. Trust us – both options are great fun.
Scream into a pillow
Screaming into a pillow is just unoriginal. There is nothing not correct so per se, but we now have other options. Let’s use it! Plus, I did this a lot in my fearful teenage years, and my parents could totally hear me throwing a seizure into my room.
Scream in the park
There are too many pedestrians during the day who will surely be afraid to witness what you are getting yourself into. At night, it’s too likely someone will call the police thinking you are being murdered (or murdered). Don’t yell in the park!
Just as a baby uses a high-pitched howl to express annoyance, hunger, or exhaustion, so do we as real human adults. It can be journaling, meditation, exercise, or art therapy that will help you unleash emotional expressions. Depending on your existing relationship with anger, these classic therapies or stressful situations in which you cannot scream may seem more like emotional suppression than admirable self-control.
While there are no specific studies on why primal screaming is therapeutic (or not), anyone who’s been on a roller coaster, jumped from a high point, or was VERY surprised knows that screaming can be a nice kick-start for liberation.
Screaming isn’t a panacea, but it can help you get some of that inner bubbling anger out. After feeling your anger (which, by the way, is perfectly fine), you may want to consider therapy (another healthy emotional exit).
You’ve probably found even more reasons to scream since you started this article. I feel you. This year it will do me too. When you feel this way, it’s really important to express it (in a way that doesn’t harm you or anyone else). And shouting is a great way to do this quickly and get on with your life the way you need to.
When you scream and feel confident, remember: screaming is normal! We do it all the time – when we see a cockroach, when we drop a glass, when our favorite sports team loses a game. And if all else fails, I won’t judge you if you have to resort to teenage penchant for screaming into your pillow.
Reina Sultan (she / she) is a Lebanese-American Muslim woman who works on gender and conflict issues when she is nine to five years old. Her work can also be found in the Huffington Post, Rewire.News, Wear Your Voice Mag, and Rantt. Follow @SultanReina on Twitter for endless hot shots and photos of her extremely cute cats.