Boxing is so much more than just hitting things – though challenging the aggression (for example, after a breakup) on a punching bag can feel pretty damn good.
Matthew Hussey, the dating coach and creator of GetTheGuy, says the sport can help you gain useful skills so you can make the most of your love life. Hussey, himself an avid boxer, has teamed up with legendary boxing coach Martin Snow at the Trinity Boxing Club in New York to share how boxing can help make your body and mind bulletproof, so you're not afraid of rejection or potential heartbreak and be self-dive into a frontal relationship. (See also: The Surprising Way Boxing Can Change Life.)
The punches must not be exaggerated.
When in the ring, it is common to think about your opponent before shooting. First, because if you swing, be open to being hit, and second, you can never be one hundred percent sure that you can land the blow first. (PS Here's how to throw a punch like a pro.)
Similarly, Hussey says in relationships, "We spend so much time figuring out if what we do is right, but the truth In fact, you learn a great deal by taking pictures and seeing how close you were to the desired results. "
In analyzing all what if and be in your relationship Hussey says it's crucial to just move forward. "I always tell my customers right away, you're sitting in a car standing in the car, wondering which way to go when you reach the end of the road," he says. "You may ask: should I stay in this relationship or should I leave?" or "Should I ask or leave this person?" But you're trying to get answers while you're standing still and it just does not work that way. (See also: Find Out How Speech Can Strengthen Your Relationship)
When it comes to finding love and finding the perfect person, you need to take the risk at the end of the day. "The beatings You may not be perfect, but they are yours. And each one of them serves as a learning opportunity to get better and stronger next time. It's the fear and the impossible that people have in their head. They take that step, but you have to get over it to get what you want ̵
Celebrate the punches you make.
Boxing is not just about how hard you can beat, it's about how hard you can beat and how to move forward. "In a relationship Being hurt is simply part of life, "says Hussey." Yes, if someone you love or care about breaks your heart, you will get bruising or scarring, but that experience makes you a person . "
When it comes to relationships, it's normal to do everything in our power to protect you from pain." But instead of running away from the pain, it's important to embrace him and stop trying to shut him up minimize, ignore, or fight, "he says. (Try this boxing yoga mash-up for a bitter body and mind.)
Think about it this way:" You would never understand, what is good in life, if you are evil not experienced, "says Hussey" If life hits you hard, it can throw you off course. But how you handle it can teach you so much about yourself and change your perspective on what you actually want from life. "
Like boxing by taking the blows Life and relationships you throw in, you're in being able to create opportunities, gain insights, and approach a life that you actually want. "If you hurt yourself, you may find that what you thought you wanted and needed for She actually was not right, "says Hussey," and this is a lesson that only heartache and pain can teach you. "
Kill your ego.
Sure, boxing" looks "physically brutal, and it is but it's also an intellectual sport, as much as it's about physically being able to hit and take you, it's also about your attitude and mentality – a thing that can compete against you in the ring, is your ego – and yes, everyone has a.
Hussey says that when your ego is injured or threatened, you tend to defend defensively, and you must perish – both in the ring and in relationships. (See also: 13 Mental Health Benefits of Exercises)
"You can not take care of them, so if your significant other does not make enough effort or you do not want to, you may want to, and you decide you'll do the same, because you are bitter, you have already lost and your ego got the best of you. "
The biggest problem with the ego is that it has no relationship skills. "The ego is one of the biggest breakdowns of relationships because it seeks to manipulate the way we love and give love," says Hussey. "To protect yourself, your ego can resort to arguments, sarcasm, frustration, passive aggressiveness, guilt and resentment, among others."
What can you do about it? Remember that you are not always right. "It's important to be aware of yourself and to think about the implications you have on the other person and how your actions affect you," he says. "You also need to learn that you are not obligated and should not be required to be better than others, the sooner you do that, the sooner you can improve and improve your relationships."