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One of the few feelings that are even more uncomfortable than having to pee is urgent, but it just won't come out because you are standing next to other guys at a urinal. This fear of performance, which scientists call paruresis or shy bladder syndrome, affects many men: around 21 million in the United States alone.
"I'm in my late 20s and I'm still having trouble getting my urinals done," a Reddit user wrote recently. "It doesn't even bother me when other people are around. It has become an inconvenience in various situations, especially in bars." He asked male commentators to share how they could overcome their own "pee shyness" and they replied in droves.
"Waiting until the problem is urgent helps," said griffinsknight7. "Making multiplication tables in my head helps (because the key is to relax – it's related to social fear and I feel unconsciously unsure, I think). And it helps more often. It gets worse if I don't have a public toilet took a while. "
Another commentator, Fitznuttz30, recommended distraction tactics. "Here's the trick: stare at the slightest imperfection on the wall or tile, or just stare in admiration at what that joint line is. That will take the focus off your shyness and let the current flow."
It is true that shyness or self-confidence are often a cause of the shy bladder syndrome; The problem is due to the fact that the person, either consciously or subconsciously, is unable to relax their pelvic floor enough to open the bladder neck. Any advice that will help you relax or distract yourself from the upcoming situation could be helpful.
Other recommendations on the subject were somewhat … more esoteric. Like this AntiSocialInjustice suggestion: "I can't say for sure if this little trick will help someone else, but it changed me. If you have to go, but the little man is not there:  TAP THE HEAD "Tap on the head. Sometimes I have to tap on it for a few seconds, but it inevitably always works for me. I sincerely hope this works for all of you, and would be grateful to hear how real tests go."  And many people said that they never found a direct solution to their shy blisters when standing at a crowded urinal, but it doesn't matter as long as the toilet has stalls.  "The stall is superior in every way – I use the stall even when there are no people around," said BurningOrangeHeaven. "I hate using the zipper hole, so I only ever unbutton my pants or take off my shorts."