When a loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease the impact on the family can be overwhelming. The fact that someone you are interested in has Alzheimer's can trigger a range of emotions, including anger, anxiety, frustration and sadness. Conflicts often occur when family members have difficulty coping with the changes.
To minimize conflicts, address the issues together.
Share the responsibility.
When you find out how much you are loved, you should consider all the preferences, resources and abilities of the family member.
Some of them provide hands-on care, either in their own homes or with the families of their loved ones. Others may feel better with breaks, chores or errands. You and your family may also choose someone who deals with financial or legal matters.
Plan regular family reunions to have the care of your loved ones. Involve all people who belong to the care team, including family friends and other close contacts. You can also share email updates for the entire family or send updates through social media resources.
At family reunions, discuss each person's care responsibilities and challenges and make changes as needed. Be open to compromises and opportunities that you have not considered yourself.
If your family gathering leads to arguments, you should ask a counselor, social worker, facilitator, or other expert for moderation.
To reduce tension, speak openly and constructively about your feelings. If you feel stressed or overwhelmed, say so – and then work together to find more effective ways to share the burden of caring for your loved one. If necessary, work again with a specialist.
Be sure to express your feelings without blaming or shaming others. Use "me" statements, eg. B. "I have trouble reconciling my own schedule with all my father's appointments." Be open minded as you hear other family members sharing their thoughts and feelings with others.
There are many "right" ways to take care. Respect the skills, style and values of each supervisor. Support in particular family members who are responsible for the daily, practical care.
Consider a consultation.
If you are worried that the stress of Alzheimer's disease is ripping your family, seek help. You could join a support group for Alzheimer's caregivers, seek family counseling, or seek advice from your nursing team.
Remember, working through conflict together can help you focus on more important things – caring for your loved ones and enjoying your time together as much as possible.
Release date: 2002-12-05