If you have the same thoughts, please don’t beat yourself up. When you compare your grief and minimize your own experience, you invalidate it, which in turn makes it harder to get through. All grief is real and you can name, feel and process it. Bereavement expert David Kessler says: “The worst loss is always your loss.”
10. You’re happier than usual – and maybe guilty.
There is a group of students who have felt better than usual in many ways during the pandemic. Some of them are more introverted or have social anxiety and as a result have felt better with less college social life demands. Doris Iarovici, MD, psychiatrist and author of Mental health problems and the college studentpoints out that these students can sometimes feel guilty knowing how much others have struggled.
Others have used the time during the pandemic to practice real self-care and prioritize themselves. Dr. Morris notes that some have considered their interests and embarked on other career paths, some have slept better, and others have taken on new hobbies. Without so much pressure ̵
11. You can no longer concentrate or get things done as you used to.
Almost every part of the pandemic can affect our ability to concentrate, explains Dr. Simon, like sleep hygiene, diet, exercise, substance use, our employment and financial situation, our schedules and environments, and access to social support. Not to mention mood, anxiety, and certain mental illnesses like ADHD.
With so many possible causes, it can be difficult to pinpoint the exact root cause of your concentration and productivity problems. However, it is vitally important to give yourself the grace to do less during this time and to accept that this will happen. You can even consider adjusting your course load if you can take different or fewer classes. “I have a number of students who are doing extremely well, and I am helping them realize that just because you can do everything you shouldn’t be doing everything,” said Dr. Kevin Simon, Senior Fellow in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, says SELF.
12. You are upset about friends who have conflicting views.
While college is often a time to experience open conversation and new perspectives, it’s no surprise that many students worry that their friend groups are feeling polarized lately. This pandemic was full of conflicting opinions on everything from face masks to social distancing. Many of my patients have expressed embarrassment that they are worried when their friends are not or frustrated that their friends are not following best safety practices.
It can be helpful to remember that everyone comes from extremely different experiences and to approach differences of opinion from a place of compassion. “People who don’t know anyone who has had a serious problem with COVID-19 often find it difficult to take this disease seriously,” said Dr. Jill Grimes, family doctor and author of The ULTIMATE College Student Health Handbooksays YOURSELF. “Add regional or political prejudice and it multiplies.”
If you’re dealing with something similar, you may find this guide helpful when you and your loved ones disagree about social distancing. However, college is also a great time to make friends who share your core values. When a friend’s opinions on COVID-19 and the pandemic show bigger differences – or frankly, when the friendship has started making you feel bad – Dr. Grimes says you can try to empower yourself to walk away.
13. You fear judgment on your own decisions.
On the other hand, she You may investigate whether or not it is safe to have face-to-face social interaction, and you may even consider certain risks in order to find your social solution. According to therapist Brit Barkholtz, MSW, LGSW, you would not be alone. For example, some of their students create COVID-19 pods in which they commit to mutual isolation in order to interact with one another.